Fighting Depression after the Loss of a
how to cope with losing a parent
Sooner or later we're all faced with parental loss, which can be very
No matter how old you are, you can never prepare yourself for the loss of a parent. However, in the first few days
after it happens, you will simply be in too much of a shock to feel the full weight of grief. Even though you know
what death actually is, a part of you will still refuse to believe any of that was real.
Every moment, you expect to wake up and find out that everything returned to the
way it was before. When this doesn’t happen a few days later, when the commotion around the funeral and the
condolences ends, you will be left alone with your thoughts. This is when the depression will see its opportunity
to strike and it is on you to try and fight it the best way you see fit.
First of all, the notion of grief should never be confused with depression. Still, differentiating between them can be tricky since their symptoms are quite
similar. In both cases, one is withdrawing from social life, feeling sad and even thinking about the hollowness
of life. Still, there are some major differences that make the delineation possible.
People in grief often don’t feel bad continuously. Their sadness intensifies, but
there are also moments in which they feel better. On the other hand, people who are depressed usually feel this way
all the time. Another indicator is that they usually experience the decline in their self-esteem. Those who are in
grief may feel angry that they didn’t get to say or do some things while they still had the time to do so, but they
are less likely to feel worthless or actually hate themselves over it.
|The intial grief and sadness after losing a parent will come to pass,
whereas depression can linger on.
Now, it is normal to set aside some time to grief properly after your parent
passed, but at some point, you must resume with your
life. No matter how cold or morbid it may sound, the life still goes on
and one day, the same fate awaits everyone. Set aside one second to think about what your parent would have
wanted and you will most likely reach the conclusion that you have to move on. The sooner you get into your
old routine of work, exercise, sleep and socializing, the better. Of course, nothing will ever be the same,
but you owe it to the people around you that care for your wellbeing to go forward.
|Despite the shock and grief of losing a parent, life must go on for your sake
and for the sake of those around you.
Death is not the end. As long as you remember your parent, they will always be
with you. Still, there are some things that might give you some closure at least when the notion of death is
concerned. For example, organizing a funeral is something that is more important for the living than for the dead.
This ancient ceremony helps people realize that the ones they cared for deeply are now off to a better
The experts from Familywills claim that
the same thing goes for the will. By making sure that the last will of your deceased parent is honored, you have
the opportunity to do right by them one last time.
|Pain and grief are part of dealing with your loss, in order to move on
and remember your parents for the bets they have given you.
Of course, the pain around the loss of these proportions will never leave you
entirely and it will sting every time you think about it. No matter what kind of a relationship you had, after a
while, all you will be able is to recall are all the best memories you had together. However, nothing you do can
ever bring them back and your life must continue. After all, it is what they would have wanted for you, and you owe
them at least that much.
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